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Don’t Apologize For…

Some days I wonder why I’m the kind of person that feels guilty, even when it’s not my fault. I do things to make people happy, and I’m likely to please them over me. However, I’m realizing that I shouldn’t apologize for everything, or even feel guilty at all. As you may already know I’m going vegan, and ever since I went vegetarian last September life is a little harder.Most people questioned my decision, and felt like they have the authority to tell me what to eat and why.

Sometimes I feel guilty, because people/family/friends cooked delicious meals for me and I have to say no. Then, I feel even worse because I keep saying no, no, and no, all over again, as well as keep explaining WHY. In some occasions either I starve, or I bring something (which I prefer and I don’t have a problem doing it), but the guilt is still there. I’m the stranger, the one that eats differently, the one you should worry about, or the one that is carrying her own dish.

Then, these past days I thought that I shouldn’t have to apologize for being vegetarian/vegan. This is my lifestyle, and I feel good about it. I don’t need to think that I should eat what people just cooked for the sake of it. Though, it is true that people love to celebrate with food, I don’t have to eat something I don’t want to, just because I’m the only vegetarian/vegan.

I don’t have to apologize for being vegetarian/vegan. I don’t have to change my lifestyle to please people, and I don’t have to eat meat to make people feel better.

This concept applies to every aspect of life. Don’t apologize for being different, for being true, and for being original. Don’t apologize if you enjoy eating tons of meat, or if you don’t. Life is too short to apologize for everything, and even shorter to live it the way people expect you to. Do what works for you, no matter what it means. We are different, and each one of us is given the chance to try life the way we want to.

Have great day ;)

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11 thoughts on “Don’t Apologize For…

  1. Natalie @ lovenataliemarie

    I know exactly what you mean! I found that I have a pretty sensitive stomach to foods and it’s hard to explain to people. I usually have to say no to meals and cook my own, because if I do eat the food my stomach doesn’t agree with, I curl up into a ball from the pain. It sucks, but i’d rather say no instead of endure pain.

    1. Jess Post author

      I hate to explain, once is ok, twice not so much, and the judgement, the looks … drives me nuts. Even if I’m starving I’ll just say no, so my tummy won’t suffer!!

  2. Stacie @ SimplySouthernStacie

    I’m one of those people who apologizes for things that aren’t my fault either. I just can’t help it! My boss has been trying to break me of this habit, but I’m not sure he is having much luck haha. Good luck with your transition to a vegan. It’s tough (I tried and failed), but if it’s what you really want, then you can do it!

    1. Jess Post author

      It comes naturally for most of us,it should be considered a disease, the I’m sorry for everything disease! The vegan part, I think I can deal with it, there are so many things to try :D

  3. GiGi

    I DANCE TO MY OWN DRUMMER every single day of my life – if people don’t like it, well they can put in some ear plugs and walk away! My drummer is just going to keep on drumming ;)

  4. Rachel

    i don’t normally comment on blogs but i just came across yours and thought i’d throw in some advice from a vegan ;-)

    adopting a vegan lifestyle isn’t anything to apologize for! being vegan isn’t difficult, but the fact is, the majority of people aren’t vegan/vegetarian, so less veg. options available. so make them available! :) when i go to parties i cook and bake vegan food to share and everyone LOVES it. they’ve always appreciated that i go out of my way to share foods and are open to new dishes. don’t feel guilty for turning something down, i just let them know that their dish looks great, but i’m vegan, and if they ask what is is/why, it’s a personal choice not to consume animal products for ethical reasons :). in emergencies i might pack a snack, otherwise i eat extra salad and try to enjoy being in the company of people i’m with.

    sorry this was long winded, but long story short -don’t apologize! you’re helping the animals and the planet!

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