Hello blends! Hope you are having a wonderful week so far! Yesterday I opened myself and shared with you the first part of my relationship with Ana. Today, for the first time, I’m linking to Amanda’s Thinking Out Loud series. Why? Because is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, and as a “recovered” person I have a lot to say.
#0 My worth is not defined by a number on a scale, the inches on my waist, or the calories I ate.
#1 I don’t understand the constant pressure/questioning of family members on how much do you weight? Really? What is the influence of my weight in your life? I mean, seriously? I love family, but oh.man, they can be so hard at times.
#2 Another thing I don’t understand is their constant “you’ve gained/lost weight, haven’t you?” Again, what is the effect of my current weight gain/loss? Does it changes your current cholesterol levels? No, ok let’s move to the next question.
#3 The she’s not that skinny mentality is a mortal weapon. On this post I talked about Krista Phelps, a girl who died from an eating disorder, but people still looked at her and said she’s not that skinny. I mean, please people educate yourself on eating disorders. You don’t have to be super-extra-duper skinny to struggle with an ED. That “profile” of a person with an ED is definitively making you blind, and avoids you the opportunity to help someone who’s battling this.
#4 I know that talking about an eating disorder is hard. First of all is hard to admit you have one, but to open up yourself about it, and tell your story to a society that can’t understand the problem is even harder. Believe me, I can count with my fingers the relatives that know I went through this process.
#5 Body shaming is bad in every possible way! All of us are beautiful, no matter our physical appearance. God made us all to his resemblance. Tall or small, blond or brunette, boys or girls. We are all different and unique, that’s more important than your current waist measure.
#6 There is possibly a list with thousands of excuses to not eat. Some of them: I’m not hungry, I just ate something, I’ll eat later, I don’t like fruits 0_O, you name it! Be aware people, it is very easy to hide an ED. In fact it’s easier than you think, I did it for a long period.
#7 Advertising is killing us softly. You already know that the advertising industry manipulates photos, with that said I believe it also rules society. It tells what is correct and what isn’t, what is the proper body figure, how much you should weight and how you should look.
#8 As Jan said on her Thinking Out Loud Post NEVER CALL A GIRL FAT!
#9 If you have a family member, or you if are struggling/recovering from an ED, body image or body weight issue throw away the scale from your place. I have one, and is a torture. Even when I’m not concerned with my weight as I used to be, I can’t get rid of it either.
#10 Education is the key to understand a person who is battling an ED. The second time Ana visited me I went to a psychologist and a psychiatrist. The first one was too hard on me, and told me that it was all in my mind (which is true) but she didn’t took the time to tell me that education was very important. Unless you’re struggling with an ED yourself, you are unlikely to understand our minds.
#11 Don’t take pills for depression. This one is a personal advice. I just said that I went to a psychiatrist. She heard me for 5 minutes, and then prescribed me anti-depression pills. I think I burned the paper. I believe that there are other options to treat an eating disorder, and a pill is not one.
#12 Eating disorders need attention. If you can, spread the message through social media, through activism. An eating disorder is like high blood pressure: a silent killer.
#13 I want the Eating Disorder Pendant
If you want to buy it and gave it to me, I happily accept it
Wheewwww, I still have a couple of thoughts to share, but I’m done for now. I’ll post the second part of my story tomorrow. Have a wonderful Thursday!
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