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Eating Disorders Need Attention

Hello blends! Hope you are having a wonderful week so far! Yesterday I opened myself and shared with you the first part of my relationship with Ana. Today, for the first time, I’m linking to Amanda’s Thinking Out Loud series. Why? Because is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, and as a “recovered” person I have a lot to say.TOL

#0 My worth is not defined by a number on a scale, the inches on my waist, or the calories I ate.

#1 I don’t understand the constant pressure/questioning of family members on how much do you weight? Really? What is the influence of my weight in your life? I mean, seriously? I love family, but oh.man, they can be so hard at times.

#2 Another thing I don’t understand is their constant “you’ve gained/lost weight, haven’t you?” Again, what is the effect of my current weight gain/loss? Does it changes your current cholesterol levels? No, ok let’s move to the next question.

#3 The she’s not that skinny mentality is a mortal weapon. On this post I talked about Krista Phelps, a girl who died from an eating disorder, but people still looked at her and said she’s not that skinny. I mean, please people educate yourself on eating disorders. You don’t have to be super-extra-duper skinny to struggle with an ED. That “profile” of a person with an ED is definitively making you blind, and avoids you the opportunity to help someone who’s battling this.

#4 I know that talking about an eating disorder is hard. First of all is hard to admit you have one, but to open up yourself about it, and tell your story to a society that can’t understand the problem is even harder. Believe me, I can count with my fingers the relatives that know I went through this process.

#5 Body shaming is bad in every possible way! All of us are beautiful, no matter our physical appearance. God made us all to his resemblance. Tall or small, blond or brunette, boys or girls. We are all different and unique, that’s more important than your current waist measure.

#6 There is possibly a list with thousands of excuses to not eat. Some of them: I’m not hungry, I just ate something, I’ll eat later, I don’t like fruits 0_O, you name it! Be aware people, it is very easy to hide an ED. In fact it’s easier than you think, I did it for a long period.

#7 Advertising is killing us softly. You already know that the advertising industry manipulates photos, with that said I believe it also rules society. It tells what is correct and what isn’t, what is the proper body figure, how much you should weight and how you should look.

#8 As Jan said on her Thinking Out Loud Post NEVER CALL A GIRL FAT!

#9 If you have a family member, or you if are struggling/recovering from an ED, body image or body weight issue throw away the scale from your place. I have one, and is a torture. Even when I’m not concerned with my weight as I used to be,  I can’t get rid of it either.

#10 Education is the key to understand a person who is battling an ED. The second time Ana visited me I went to a psychologist and a psychiatrist. The first one was too hard on me, and told me that it was all in my mind (which is true) but she didn’t took the time to tell me that education was very important. Unless you’re struggling with an ED yourself, you are unlikely to understand our minds.

#11 Don’t take pills for depression. This one is a personal advice. I just said that I went to a psychiatrist. She heard me for 5 minutes, and then prescribed me anti-depression pills. I think I burned the paper. I believe that there are other options to treat an eating disorder, and a pill is not one.

#12 Eating disorders need attention. If you can, spread the message through social media, through activism. An eating disorder is like high blood pressure: a silent killer.

#13 I want the Eating Disorder Pendant

If you want to buy it and gave it to me, I happily accept  it ;)

Wheewwww, I still have a couple of thoughts to share, but I’m done for now. I’ll post the second part of my story tomorrow. Have a wonderful Thursday!

Have you struggled with an ED?

Do you know someone who’s battling an ED?

What are your thoughts?

Xx Jess

 

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13 thoughts on “Eating Disorders Need Attention

  1. Jan @ Sprouts n Squats

    Unfortunately I suspect a very close friend of mine has an eating disorder but there isn’t a lot I can do. I found clear evidence of her disorder and have tried talking to her about it but she shut me down very quickly so I’ve just tried to be there for her and hope that once she is ready she knows she can lean on me.

    I think what you said about family members commenting or really anyone feeling they have the right to comment on your weight is so true, it just isn’t helpful. Well done for writing both this post and the one yesterday.

    I think you should definitely get that ED necklace, get your boyfriend to buy it for you :)

    1. Jess Post author

      You don’t know how bad do I feel for the fact that your friend is going through this. The second time I suffered from an ED my doctor asked me talk to a young girl (she was like 11 yrs) about it, and it was sooo hard. Specially because she didn’t admitted it. I believe the that’s the worst part, you have to admit to yourself, your family, and society that you are struggling with an ED, darn! How did a no food policy became your worst nightmare. People will judge you and point at you, some other will be kind, like you, and will support you through the process!

      Thanks for reading!!

      Btw I asked the necklace in the hopes that when Jou reads this he’ll buy it for me :D

    1. Jess Post author

      If I can help at least one person, I’m good! There are a lot of misconceptions, and people barely know how to deal with it. They’ll try to make you eat everything they want, they will judge you without understanding your mind. Is hard, but that’s why it is so important to read information before you are telling someone you are not that skinny. Thanks for reading!

  2. Amanda @ .running with spoons.

    It’s scary to think about how many people are struggling with disordered eating — if not a full blown eating disorder — who don’t look like they have a problem from the outside. I think the idea that you need to “look the part” is ridiculous because it keeps people from getting the help they need. Heck, I remember denying that I had a problem for SO long because I didn’t think I was sick enough. I acknowledged that I had some issues with food, but a full blown ED? Nawwww… never me. More awareness is definitely key… so thank you for participating in NEDA week, Jess :)

    1. Jess Post author

      Thank you for inspiring us into writing about this topic! I’m amazed by your story and your strength! There is a lot to do, and I want to play my part!

  3. Cailee

    This is a great post! Very open and honest about a serious issue. Thanks for sharing with us… EDs really need more attention. Today it seems that everyone is so focused on the obesity epidemic that they forget about the fact that some people are struggling on the opposite end of the spectrum.

  4. GiGi Eats Celebrities

    I have CONSTANTLY wondered – WHO is the person who says XXX is the IDEAL?! I am so confused by this. SO CONFUSED! We cannot even say it’s the media, because who told the MEDIA that XXX is what we should all be.

    WE SHOULDN’T ALL BE ONE THING! We are all DIFFERENT! We were all made differently. We all have differences that make us unique and stunning! We need to own what we have, and smile!

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